Here’s my seven ‘top tips’ to help us help our family to improve our overall mental health after the lockdowns.
We are only just fully understanding the scale of the toll that the months of lockdown has had on the mental health and wellbeing of our children. ‘Freedom’ seems a long way off for many.
Surveys, studies and research results are flooding in, sharing very challenging results, and these include studies by The Disabled Children’s Partnership (DCP) of which I’m a member, as well as Sibs, the support organisation for brothers and sisters of children with additional needs.
We need to be aware of this data as it helps us to understand and help our children better, to journey with them as we help them back from the mental health challenges that many of them are experiencing.
Here are some of the ‘highlights’ from the studies:
As recently as April this year, 75% of disabled children in UK were socially isolated, and two thirds of them were not getting the support they were legally entitled to (DCP #LeftInLockdown report).
The same report highlighted that due to delays to appointments and meetings, over half of children had experienced their condition worsening and their development stopping.
It continued by showing that over half of children had lost the confidence to go outside of their homes, and 40% had lost confidence in interacting socially with even familiar people like friends and family.
All of this has resulted in 33% of parents saying that their disabled child now has depression.
And this hasn’t been restricted to disabled children themselves. Sibs report that 81% of siblings’ mental health has become worse during lockdown, with 40% feeling isolated.
This loneliness can often be because of having to shield to protect their brother or sister. Parents are affected in a similar way, with the Disabled Children’s Partnership reporting 60% of parents experiencing social isolation.
It’s stark reading, I realise, and we can’t just leave it there without some thoughts about what we can do to make a difference to these figures. So, here’s my seven ‘top tips’ to help us help our family to improve our overall mental health:
1. Exercise! Try to get your bodies moving. That might be anything from a walk or roll around the block to a full Joe Wicks style workout (they’re still out there on the Internet!), but the more we move the better our mood, so get moving!
2. Exercise your minds too! Keep your brains active. That could be by doing puzzles, playing games, telling stories, reading, anything that makes you all work those little grey cells a bit.
3. Eat well! It’s been easy to fall into bad eating habits during lockdown, and comfort food can often seem to be a remedy for low mood, but eating a balanced, healthy diet can make a real difference both to our bodies and our minds. Drink plenty of water too.
4. Go outside or let the outside in! The first lockdown was accompanied by some fantastic weather, most of us were able to get outside and get our children outside and we benefitted from it. Since then, the weather has been… less helpful, but some fresh air and a glimpse of sunshine can still lift our mental health. Even opening a window and letting the fresh air in can make a difference.
5. Talk with people! OK, we may still not all be able to see people like we would like to, but we might be able to phone, Zoom, FaceTime or whatever works for you? Hearing a loved one’s voice, maybe seeing their face if only on a screen, all can still help us feel less isolated and alone.
And if we can visit friends and family safely then make the most of those opportunities. Days without social contact can affect most of us, but if we keep in touch we can keep on top.
6. Have fun! Make sure there is time each day for the things you and your children enjoy doing. If that’s watching TV or time on the Xbox then don’t beat yourself up about it, your mental health will thank you for it. Go easy on yourselves, some days just getting through without anyone being lost or killed is a win!
7. Look for the positives and celebrate them. What went well today? What made you or your child smile? What were the wins? Focus on them, celebrate them, and repeat them!
In some cases, children’s mental health will need professional intervention and support as well in order to hopefully recover, but by intentionally seeking to look after our own mental health and the mental health of all of our children we can help to limit the impact that the last months will otherwise have had.
Let’s be active, in every way, and look after ours and our children’s well-being! And remember, you’re not facing this alone, there are lots of us out there trying to get through this too… why not check in on some additional needs support groups, online groups, and even other families that you know, so that you can work through this together with other people that ‘get it’ too.
Mark Arnold, Director of Additional Needs Ministry at Urban Saints. Arnold blogs at The Additional Needs Blogfather. This article was re-published with permission.
The article was originally post at Evangelical Focus
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